By Matthew McClain
When I sit at my desk on Friday afternoons, I think about the week that has just flown by.
I think about the HUGE list of kids that need to see me.
I think about all the work that did not get done.
I frequently begin to focus on the negative.
I didn't get to see Johnny, and I didn't get that RtI form to Mrs. Stevenson, I didn't clean my desk up (I've been trying to do that for weeks - I was going to get it done before Christmas break), I should have.... I could have... UGH!
But then I force myself to think about the kids I DID see, the things I did get done, and realize that although I try to be superman, I'm in fact human and flawed, and so very not perfect, but I do make a difference.
I triage the kids on my list and see those that need immediate attention, I help them work through those tears, I help them process the difficulties in their lives.
Triage - what does that mean?? Based on the information I have, that helps me determine if they need to be moved up. That could be a call from a parent saying they are dealing with a life event, it could be a recent death of a loved one, it could be an upheaval with friends, etc.. Those that get moved down on the list are issues that can be addressed at some point, for example, they need help figuring out how to make new friends.
Yes, that is important, but that coaching can take place over a few meetings with practice. I do remind myself often, that their "drama" is all they know at this point in their life, so it really is a BIG deal! That must be weighed when triage takes place.
I cherish the waves, smiles, hugs and high fives. After all, the connection and relationships with the kids is what will make a difference in their lives.
Also, it's all about balance y'all!! Self care is critical. If you aren't taking care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of anyone. Focus on the positive - as cheesy as it sounds, it makes a difference. Take some time for YOU in the next few days. Connect with a friend, take some time to meditate on all the blessings in your life, enjoy a great cup of coffee or glass of wine. Breathe deeply, enjoy life.
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